The hardest part about learning something new is the self-critique. The way that we judge ourselves is often far harsher than any feedback we receive.
Last week, I had the opportunity to teach yoga classes to my fellow trainees. As I prepared to teach my first self-choreographed yoga class, I reflected on how I kept putting pressure on myself to memorize my sequence correctly. But why?
The experience of a yoga class is far more than the postures themselves. By the third day of teaching, it became clear that a yoga teacher’s role is much more challenging than I ever gave it credit. It’s more than a playlist and some sequences. It’s how you engage your class.
“Let’s Do This One For Us” @erikanicoleCLE Align Yoga Teacher Training
A few weeks ago, one of my yoga trainers (a goddess in her own right) said this to us before we prepped for practice. “Let’s do this one for us.” The significance of that phrase is so much more than meets the eye.
On any given day in training, we might log 5+ hours of yoga. My Apple Watch was undoubtedly busy trying to keep up. But think about any activity we perform repetitively.
- At first, we love it.
- But after a while, we check out.
- Or we overanalyze.
- Or we go on autopilot.
We were practicing so much—emphasizing learning—but we didn’t want to lose our passion for the experience. By setting those simple expectations, “let’s do it for us,” the prompt was to get out of our heads.
And then, when you do that, something magical happens. When you stop overthinking, you experience the moment.
Read the Room
The significance of this lesson, Get Out of Your Head, has become invaluable to me on my journey. The reality is, overthinking can easily be attributed to:
- fear,
- self-doubt,
- insecurity,
- analysis paralysis,
- perfectionism
By thinking less and doing more, I’ve trusted my instincts and tapped into my intuition.
But there is a warning label I must add to this advice. You have to be able to “read the room.” Reading the room allows you to gauge others’ reactions to your actions.
Earlier I mentioned the passion I have for teaching (and leading in my day job) is it’s about the people—not about me. When you align with that purpose, you need to process feedback in real-time, even without words. Watching my fellow trainees in their practice, I can see visual cues that serve as feedback.
I need to get better at that.
I intended to give the trainees a physically challenging practice and coach them through it. The reality is, it had been a long nine days, and we were in the last hour, and our bodies were exhausted. If I had read the room, I would have seen that the trainees needed something different than what I scripted for them.
And that’s the reality of life. We can prepare all we want, but sometimes you need to call the audible.
How often do we present in a meeting and notice the audience is checking out? Do we trust ourselves to go “off-book” and bring them back? Or do we trudge along with our PowerPoint slides because that’s what we prepared? It can be hard to make a last-minute change after investing so much in your talking points’ memorization.
The Lesson
I have so much more empathy for how hard it can be to learn new things now that I got out of my comfort zone. We’ve all started new jobs before, but we forget how hard those early days are once we get grounded.
The early days of learning are full of uncertainty and self-doubt. You may or may not have a coach or leader that reassures you along the way.
The best way I have found to get out of my head while learning a new skill is to stop benchmarking myself against an expert. It’s easy to make comparisons. But where I am today is where I’m supposed to be today—because I’m new. I also don’t care to quantify how long it will take me to become an expert (BTW, there’s conflicting research about whether you need to log 10,000 hours doing something to be an expert).
So there it is. Go out there, learn something new, and don’t think too hard about it. I am sending you all my peace, love, and intuition.
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